Getting Married

Getting Married at St Mary’s

Today more than a quarter of all marriages in England take place before God in the traditional setting of a Church of England church. You’re welcome to marry in church whatever your beliefs, whether or not you are baptised and whether or not you go to church.

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Thinking of a church wedding?

Congratulations! You’re welcome to marry in church whatever your beliefs, whether or not you are christened and whether or not you regularly go to church. And, marrying in church has never been easier.

For such a special day, we offer a special place. There are some great things about marrying in church that you might like to know. All you need to help you plan a personal, meaningful, spiritual and beautiful church wedding can be found on the Church of England web site: www.yourchurchwedding.org

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We wish you every blessing for your forthcoming marriage.

What do Christians believe about marriage?

Getting Married 1Whether it is held in a church, a Register Office, or anywhere else, the marriage ceremony is a public declaration of your love for each other. It will give you a new legal status as husband and wife and a new stability within which your relationship can grow and flourish.

If you choose to get married in church you are also saying that you want God to be part of your relationship. The Bible says a lot about love. Christians believe that the love you have for each other is a reflection of God’s love for all his people on earth.

Preparing for the service

If you would like to get married at St Mary’s, the first point of contact is the Vicar to see whether the church is free on your preferred date.

He will arrange to meet you to discuss all the questions you may have about such matters as banns, videos, flowers, music, an organist, and things like a printed order of service. Do allow plenty of time for these arrangements to be made, but remember that all of these are optional extras and a church wedding need not have expensive trappings. Think through what really matters to you.

If you have friends or family members you would like to involve in the service, for example by doing a reading or playing a musical instrument we would discuss this at an early stage in the planning.

Getting Married 3Q. Where can I get married?

A. You are entitled to be married in the church of the Church of England parish where one or other of you lives. If you are an active, worshipping member of another church congregation, it is usually possible to be married there. In order to be married at St Mary’s at least one of you should live in the parish of St Mary’s Bramall Lane. Other links would be taken into consideration. If you are not sure, we can easily tell you which parish you live in.

Q. How do I ensure my wedding is legal?

A. To make sure everything is legal you must have your banns read out in church for three consecutive Sundays during the three months before the wedding. Banns are an announcement of your intention to marry and a chance for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. They need to be read in the parish where each of you lives as well as at the church in which you are to be married, if that is in another parish. Alternatively, you need to have a Common Licence or an Archbishop’s Licence (although these are only granted in particular circumstances). We can advise you on these. If either of you is under 18 you will need your parents’ consent to marry.

Q. Can I choose what style of service I want?

A. You may prefer one of the old versions of the wedding service with traditional language like ‘thee’ and ‘thou’ or the modern one, which uses the language of today. We will help you to reflect on the different services that can be used.

Q. How much will the church service cost?

A. Some people spend thousands of pounds on their wedding day and by comparison the fees for the minister and church are very small. The legal fees are standard but churches charge different amounts for the organist, singers, lighting and so on, so check exactly what you will be expected to pay and when payment is required.

Q. Can we have a video recording of the service?

A. Videos are permissible on payment of a copyright fee.

Q. What is one of us is divorced?

A. This need not be a barrier to marriage at St Mary’s and this would be given careful and sympathetic consideration

For more information:
e: church@stmarys-church.co.uk
t: 0114 272 4987