Funerals at St Mary’s

A funeral marks the close of a human life on earth. It is the opportunity for friends and family to express their grief, to give thanks for the life which has now completed its journey in this world and to commend the person into God’s keeping.

The Vicar or Associate Vicar will meet with you to hear about the person you have lost, to build a picture of that person’s life and discuss with you how you would like to celebrate and give thanks for them. This will usually include music special to the family or their loved one, reading from scripture or poetry, tributes from members of the family and time for quiet reflection.

On a practical note, the time available in the crematorium chapel will be half an hour, which allowing time for coming in and going out, leaves 20 minutes for the service. This is very often enough time to fulfill your wishes at this stage. However, if you would like to include more music and musicians, allow time for members of the family to speak, or make use of display space for photographs, St Mary’s Church is an inexpensive option. We are able to offer a beautiful and uncluttered space, with clear acoustics, to celebrate and give thanks for the life of your loved one, in a reflective  atmosphere of quiet dignity and peace. You may also set the funeral in the context of a Communion Service.

Increasingly we find that families wish to play a big part in designing the service they want for their loved one. Some people find planning the funeral with family and friends helps in their grieving. Perhaps you already know something of what your loved one wanted. You may even have planned the service together some time ago. We will help you to develop your ideas and make the most of the space and time available, whichever option you prefer.

Some deaths will be especially traumatic, distressing or unexpected. The Church has special funerals for children, or after sudden or violent deaths, including suicide. Please ask us about what is possible.

Following the funeral, some appreciate a visit at a suitable time. We will do this if you wish, but there is no requirement for it if you feel it would be intrusive or unhelpful. In November of each year we offer a memorial service for those recently bereaved entitled “A Space to Remember.” We would usually contact families close to that time to task if you would like to make use of it.

A Space to Remember

Sunday in November 4.00pm at St Mary’s Bramall Lane

This is a special opportunity to remember those of our friends and family who have died recently.  A time to share memories, to light a candle and to bring into the present those things we want to recall and to share silence.

“Those we remember, those we love, Safe now in God’s hands.”

Funerals 3On arrival you will find a card on which to write the names of those you would like to include  in our act of remembrance.

For more information:
e: church@stmarys-church.co.uk
t: 0114 272 4987